October 23, 2023 by Fred Colby
Eight years ago, I found myself where many of you are today… in deep grieving mode and without the one person I could always rely upon to hear, support, and love me whenever I was facing a major challenge. I, like many of you, had to decide: Do I hide
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October 6, 2023 by Fred Colby
Since your wife died, how often have you been thoroughly confused by the kindness of women towards you? How often have you, even though you know it is wrong, thought there might be something there? I am not embarrassed to tell you that I had many such instances. For example,
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September 19, 2023 by Fred Colby
Just try to be angry and grateful at the same time. Hard, isn’t it? It is difficult because the focus on one interferes with your ability to do the other. Once we get past the numbness after our wife passes, we usually sink into a period of deep grieving that
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September 12, 2023 by Chris Meeker
Expectations In June, I had the privilege of attending the TAPS Massachusetts Men’s Retreat — my first TAPS retreat. My expectations of fitting in or finding connections among the group were honestly very low. My background — my loss — sets me apart from the typical Men’s
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September 7, 2023 by Fred Colby
How often have you said or thought, “I can’t do that! I am not good at it and never will be.” For me, it was math. God, how I hated math. I was a classic straight “D” student through elementary, middle, and high school. Then, something happened. During my third
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August 31, 2023 by Sherry R Schachter
Fall brings anticipation for children starting school. Some children may be excited to see their school friends and teachers they have missed, for others it, may be the anticipation of meeting new children. They may have mixed feelings. However, for children who may have recently lost a parent (or other
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August 23, 2023 by Fred Colby
Are you floating in a sea of grief with only a life vest of memories keeping you afloat? If you are not careful, that life vest can become a heavy weight of anger, regrets, and fear that drags you down into depression. Grief during the early stages can be both
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April 17, 2023 by Kei Okada
When we grieve the loss of our loved one, it is not just emotional. It shakes who we are, and how we live our lives. We sometimes feel as if our spirit or soul were “trembling.” One important part is missing from our life, it changes the entire design of
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March 27, 2023 by Kei Okada, MDiv, BCC
Spirituality and Grief We all live with loss experiences. We keep losing various things and people, while gaining new experiences, including the experiences of the losses. It affects, shakes, or moves our heart, mind and spirit deeply. How do we express such sensations, from which perceptions?
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