December 21, 2024 by Jane Dembling
I am a somatic therapist dedicated to helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with greater resilience and emotional balance. Having experienced the loss of my spouse, I understand firsthand how overwhelming grief can be. However, I also know that healing is possible and there is a path forward. Through somatic practices,
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December 16, 2024 by Fred Colby
Shortly after my wife of 45 years passed in 2015, I found myself buried in grief. I knew I was in trouble and could not find the answers by myself. So, I asked, “Where can I go for help?” I knew a little about therapy but had never really taken
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December 1, 2024 by Fred Colby
Many will tell you within a week of your wife’s passing that you must steel yourself against the trauma of upcoming special days and holidays. We each are likely to have very different experiences during these special days. Much of your reaction will depend upon how important and memorable each
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November 15, 2024 by Fred Colby
O.K. Roll your eyes! I was roped into watching the new Golden Bachelorette television series. My expectations were low after watching the initial Golden Bachelor series with its sometimes-uncomfortable competition between the women contestants, and the implosion of the resulting marriage. However, I was pleasantly surprised as these bachelors offered
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November 2, 2024 by Fred Colby
Living a good life in today’s world is no small accomplishment. It is easy to succumb to anger and stress given the many challenges in our everyday lives, and so often others are trying to amplify those negative feelings so they can sell “their” solution to us. Unfortunately, we cannot
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October 18, 2024 by Fred Colby
On the evening of June 29, 2015, I began a journey for which I was ill-prepared. After holding my wife as she passed, I entered the grieving experience with no idea of what to expect along the way. For the first couple of weeks, I experienced the “Numbing Period.”
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October 4, 2024 by Fred Colby
If you were a caregiver for your wife for an extended time, there is a good chance that you experienced anticipatory grief. Expectation of imminent death can be both a blessing and a curse. Our aversion to admitting that she will die may cause us to avoid contemplating what the
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September 20, 2024 by Fred Colby
When our wives die, we often lose the one person who loved us: • Unreservedly, • no matter what idiotic things we did, • despite our failings, our weaknesses, and our bad habits, and • even though we may have failed them at times.
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September 5, 2024 by Fred Colby
It is easy during the first year or so after your wife’s passing to become so immersed in your own grief that you ignore the grief others are feeling. Let’s face it, during this time our grief is overwhelming! It often blocks out everything else so that we are unaware
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August 22, 2024 by Fred Colby
A year before my wife’s passing, she began to experience upsetting physical and mental conditions, including skin rashes and stress. This continued for a while with her unable to determine the cause or to find solutions after visiting a couple of doctors. Around that time, she began criticizing almost anything
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