January 21, 2025 by Fred Colby
When I turned 30 years of age I went through an early mid-life crisis. I hated my job, had no clear goals, and did not know what I wanted to do. Consequently, I was drinking too much and was not much fun to be around for my wife and kids.
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January 13, 2025 by Fred Colby
This is the second of two blogs on this topic. Part One outlined the Risk Factors, while Part Two deals with some solutions for the issues identified below. There are several major risk factors faced by Widowers during their first year of grieving. Any of these can lead to life-threatening
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January 2, 2025 by Fred Colby
This is the first of two blogs on this topic. Part Two will deal with solutions to each of the following issues. There are several major risk factors faced by Widowers during their first year of grieving. Any of these can lead to life-threatening mental and physical health issues. Many,
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December 21, 2024 by Jane Dembling
I am a somatic therapist dedicated to helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with greater resilience and emotional balance. Having experienced the loss of my spouse, I understand firsthand how overwhelming grief can be. However, I also know that healing is possible and there is a path forward. Through somatic practices,
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December 16, 2024 by Fred Colby
Shortly after my wife of 45 years passed in 2015, I found myself buried in grief. I knew I was in trouble and could not find the answers by myself. So, I asked, “Where can I go for help?” I knew a little about therapy but had never really taken
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December 1, 2024 by Fred Colby
Many will tell you within a week of your wife’s passing that you must steel yourself against the trauma of upcoming special days and holidays. We each are likely to have very different experiences during these special days. Much of your reaction will depend upon how important and memorable each
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November 15, 2024 by Fred Colby
O.K. Roll your eyes! I was roped into watching the new Golden Bachelorette television series. My expectations were low after watching the initial Golden Bachelor series with its sometimes-uncomfortable competition between the women contestants, and the implosion of the resulting marriage. However, I was pleasantly surprised as these bachelors offered
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November 2, 2024 by Fred Colby
Living a good life in today’s world is no small accomplishment. It is easy to succumb to anger and stress given the many challenges in our everyday lives, and so often others are trying to amplify those negative feelings so they can sell “their” solution to us. Unfortunately, we cannot
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October 18, 2024 by Fred Colby
On the evening of June 29, 2015, I began a journey for which I was ill-prepared. After holding my wife as she passed, I entered the grieving experience with no idea of what to expect along the way. For the first couple of weeks, I experienced the “Numbing Period.”
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October 4, 2024 by Fred Colby
If you were a caregiver for your wife for an extended time, there is a good chance that you experienced anticipatory grief. Expectation of imminent death can be both a blessing and a curse. Our aversion to admitting that she will die may cause us to avoid contemplating what the
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